§  Grief’s Meaning

 

§ It hurts uniquely during the Holidays

§ Seek supportive/understanding people 

 

REFLECTION: The Snowflake theory for me is important because……

§  Grief’s Mysteries

 

§ Everyone does not go through all the Stages

§ Take a break to compose yourself

 

 

REFLECTION:  The Grief Journey’s physical and emotional areas that surprised me were……

§  Grief’s Impact

 

§ Most areas of my life were affected

§ Stay busy but allow your feelings

 

REFLECTION:  I will begin to Do something I have always wanted to Do for me and that is……

 

QUOTE:            “Gratitude is something of which none of us can give too much.”            

A. J. Cronin

 

§  Your Perception

 

§ Death is a natural part of life

§ Grief stages are an integral part of living

 

REFLECTION:  I will feel Death by allowing myself to acknowledge the loss/process the pain by…………..

 

§  Your Response

 

§ Stop expecting others to understand

§ Don’t let Grief be your unfinished business

 

REFLECTION: I will build my Grief Space and allow myself time for silence by……..

 

§  STAGE ONE – Loneliness/Depression

 

§ Feeling all alone and depressed

§ Shock/Denial – emotional release

 

REFLECTION:  I will Reflect in my writing or Meditation positive thoughts that can help me find an emotional release by….

 

§   STAGE TWO – Your Possible Side Effects

–    Lack of concentration and Memory loss

–    Anxiety and Isolation from others

–    Fatigue and Reduced productivity

–    Increased accidents and errors – Disorganization

§  STAGE THREE – Your Anger/Hostility

 

§ Acknowledge your anger and hostilities

§ Panic attacks/anxiety – Guilt/Shame

 

REFLECTION:  I welcome a Grief Partner where my confidentiality will be honored by….

 

QUOTE:  “How happy a person is depends on the depth of his Gratitude.”          

John Miller

 

§  STAGE FOUR – Letting Go to Heal

 

§ Address the physical symptoms and get active

§ Forgive yourself and seek acceptance

 

REFLECTION:  I will learn to Journalize, identify my Triggers and address them by .….

 

§  How to Cope – Progress

 

§ Move along, let the tears flow

§ Allow for times of silence, honor yourself

 

REFLECTION: I will acknowledge the loss and that I am not 100% by ……..

 

§  How to Move Forward – Liberation

 

§ Accept the blessings of the relationship change

§ Know your experience is unique

 

REFLECTION:  I will not rush my Bereavement and be patient with myself and my timeline by……..

 

QUOTE:            “He who forgets the language of Gratitude can never be on speaking terms with

Happiness.”                                              

C. Neil Strait

 

• How to Search – Answers/Stages

 

§ Keep the faith, allow time to Heal

§ Believe in you – Gender differences

 

REFLECTION:  I will commit to my Faith and reject Fear as I work at the cost of grief by……..

§  How to Reach Within – Choice

 

§ Be willing to stop asking “why” – acceptance

§ Don’t isolate – significant dates matter

 

REFLECTION:  I will remember them always as the true impact comes later and it starts with……..

 

§   How to Move On – Pay it Forward

 

§ Search for meaning in your loss – give back

§ Be a comfort to others – awareness

 

REFLECTION:  I am willing to Learn to live again by attaching some meaning to the loss through……….

 

§   How to Grow Beyond – Celebrate a Life

 

§ Live each day for both of you – senses

§ Open doors when you are ready

 

 

REFLECTION:  I will show kindness, count my blessings; accept the opportunity of this special time by….

 

QUOTE:            “So much has been given to me; I have not time to ponder over that

which has been denied.”                       

Helen Keller

 

     

Surviving the Death of a Sibling – Wray, T. J. – 2003

The Year of Magical Thinking – Joan Didion – 2005

Connections – Clarke, Jean Illsley – 1999

When Bad Things Happen to Good People – Kushner, Harold – 1997

 

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